It’s around 10 o’clock in the morning. She’s entering the courthouse, and it’s a beautiful, sunny day—but not for her. Suddenly, a kind police officer says, “I’m sorry, madam, you’re not allowed to enter with any liquid.”
“It’s water,” she replies, looking into the officer’s blue eyes with a little surprise that someone could interrupt her thoughts.
“Water? Then drink it!” the officer says. And so she does.
She thinks to herself, “Is it possible to drink something and just die, to escape a situation that forces me to talk with my husband to get a divorce like normal people?” As she makes her way to meet her lawyer for the divorce hearing, she suddenly sees her husband. Ten years of marriage, destroyed. No more romance, no more kisses, nothing left but people who weren’t even invited to their wedding. She reaches a moment when she wishes, “Why won’t the earth swallow me whole?”
Of course, she wants to blame her husband, his family, his friends, and so on. But deep in her soul, she knows that she holds at least 50% of the responsibility for everything that’s gone. She tries to explain to the judges what happened with the properties, the money, and so on. By the end of it, she finds that nobody cares about telling the truth, only about cutting her out of the picture, especially when money and assets are involved. In the end, that’s the main reason someone needs a lawyer to finalize their marriage.
Ultimately, I hope she understands that she and her husband were good people. The breakdown wasn’t necessarily due to one person being “evil.” When a person goes through a divorce, they should have the opportunity to learn how to articulate their side of the story, their feelings, and the facts of the situation. Divorce can often be the result of partners struggling to express themselves or not being given a fair chance to connect through open and honest dialogue. Therefore, if you’re considering divorce as an option, I believe you profoundly deserve the chance to develop your ability to explain the things that no one can help you with when authorities are involved.
How many issues could you not explain? How many unspoken situations filled your heart with resentment? Emotional problems must be addressed as soon as possible because while a legal divorce can be done quickly, even online, the emotional divorce may take years to overcome, preventing you from moving on with your life. In most cases, the issues aren’t about choosing the wrong person to marry, but rather about not pausing to learn how to communicate effectively with the people who mean something—or everything—in your life.